Best Fucking Friends Forever!
It’s a weird concept, isn’t it; to have a ‘best‘ friend. I find it strange enough; the notion that while you may have lots of friends, one of them in particular is universally agreed to be the one that you like the most, but what’s even stranger is when someone refers to themselves as someone else’s best friend. That’s weird, right? On the one hand, you can be saying to a friend who isn’t your best friend, that someone else is your best friend, and that basically translates as “Have you met Charlie? He’s that guy that I like more than I like you.”, but then for another person to refer to themselves as someone’s best friend is like a declaration that they like you more than they like anyone else. It’s like saying “Oh, hi. I’m Charlie, the guy that Matt likes more than he likes you.”
Then there’s Item Two on this little musing. How do you know that your best friend’s best friend is you? I have a best friend; although I only have one real friend, so I suppose he is a best friend by default, if anything. However, my best friend has lots of other friends; and since my best friend lives six hours away, and I only see him once a year or so, I’d say it’s safe to assume that my best friend has other friends that he considers his best friends. Now, while this is absolutely fine, it has meant that I’ve been careful never to refer to him as my ‘best friend’, so that we’re never in a situation where we are both simulteaneously aware of his being my best friend, and my not being his best friend.
Finally: Item Three. This one pisses me off. A lot of kids these days use the term ‘bestest’ friend. Now, I’m not sure if a) They’re just trying to sound cute, b) They aren’t familiar with how to conjugate this particular adjective, or c) They’re just fucking stupid; but either way, they’re implying with the use of this word, that this friend is better than their best friend, which given the definition of the term ‘best‘ is fundamentally impossible.
Also, I don’t approve of anyone, ever, using the acronym ‘BFF‘. It isn’t okay. Nor is ‘bestie‘. Just stop it.
I hope this rant has opened your eyes to both the etiquette of having, and the nomenclature of referring to, a best friend. As a side note, it will probably open your eyes as to why I only have one friend.
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My husband asked me the other day, “What the hell is a bestie?” I told him it’s another waying of saying best friend, but instead of just saying two words, someone felt lazy enough to make it one – one stupid, annoying, ‘I think I’m cooler thean you’ word.
Great post. I too, only have one friend. I’m pretty happy with that.
The English language is going to shit. Let’s blame bad American TV and Facebook.
Hear hear, darling!
And Paris Hilton. Please blame Paris Hilton for her shit show BFF on MTV. I watched it once (before I changed channels like hell) and it was a set of trials that would identify one of many girls as her BFF. Now let me tell you:
A BFF is not someone who you met two days ago. Is not someone who will try to impress you by emulating a personality that you like nor is it someone that will bitch talk you behind your back or back stab other people so they appear better in your eyes.
A best friend is someone that you’ve known for years (mine is with me since i was in my 5th grade), will always silently support you, tell you you’re shit (when you are shit), warn you about decisions that may seem rushed and be with you when you need a soul to talk to about your problems. It goes the other way as well – someone you love to listen to and be with.
Rare thing.
The second F of BFF is supposed to mean FOREVER! If it’s Forever, you can’t wander off and get a new one every week. What part of Forever don’t they understand? Oh Yeah! The part about having to speak correct, comprehensible English.
So true!
Ok. I don’t want to upset you further but there is a new acronym flying about these days. It is the BFBFF. Best Facebook Friends Forever. My mind was blown when I first heard it.
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YES! I’ve often pondered each of these points. I have friends, but I wouldn’t call any of them my best friend. This post sums up the reasons nicely, especially the first point. Why does everything have to be a contest? Why can’t our friends just be our friends?
To kids today, everyone is thier best friend…. It’s crazy